GETTING OVER A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP: A SINGLE WOMAN'S HEALING JOURNEY!
Toxic Relationships Can Leave You Feeling Broken!
Healing from a toxic relationship can be a challenging and emotional journey, for anyone. But because I mainly work with women, in this blog I will talk about the important parts of the healing process for single women.
If you are a single woman who has experienced a toxic relationship, and you're struggling right, now read on.
In this blog I'll talk about the steps to recovery, self-care practices, and valuable insights to help you move forward. While this path may not be easy, it's really important to focus on regaining your sense of self-worth, confidence, and emotional well-being, so that you can feel good in yourself. In my experience it is much better to take the time to heal and stay single for a while to do this, before moving into another relationship.
Here are Some Important Aspects of Healing from a Toxic Relationship:
Understanding Toxic Relationships:
As part of embarking on your healing journey, it's crucial to recognize the signs of a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are those that cause emotional, psychological, or physical harm. They may involve manipulation, control, emotional or physical abuse, or other destructive behaviors. Acknowledging that you were in such a relationship is the first step towards healing. You need to get super-clear on what was wrong in the relationship. This awareness is crucial, because you want to make sure that you don't repeat the past. You also want to be able to develop some healthy boundaries and feel confident on what is right and what is not so that you can call out any bad behaviour (or just stay away from certain people) in the future!
To heal, it's essential to treat yourself with kindness and compassion. Understand that it's okay to feel a wide range of emotions, including anger, sadness, and confusion. Self-compassion involves forgiving yourself for any perceived mistakes and giving yourself permission to heal at your own pace. Give yourself the opportunity to feel uncomfortable feelings and don't just push them away. I recommend doing a journalling practice to scribble down your thoughts and feelings. This allows you to acknowledge difficult emotions and process them and will also help you move through the stages of healing quicker in the long run! There is a saying that you need to 'feel to heal' and this is very true. Give yourself this opportunity.
You don't have to go through the healing process alone. Reach out to friends, family, or a therapist who can provide emotional support and guidance. Talking to someone who understands what you've been through can be incredibly therapeutic. Don't suffer in silence!
Toxic relationships often involve a lack of healthy boundaries. Part of the healing journey is learning to set and enforce boundaries. This may involve distancing yourself from the toxic person and establishing clear limits to protect your emotional well-being.
Rediscover Your Interests:
During a toxic relationship, you may have put your interests and hobbies on hold. Your partner may have belittled what is important to you and you may have let go of these parts of yourself. Now is the time to rediscover your passions and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfilment. Reconnecting with your interests can help you regain a sense of self and independence.
Self-care is an essential aspect of healing. Looking after you whilst you heal, includes getting enough rest, maintaining a healthy diet, exercising, all the basics! You could also try some relaxation techniques like meditation or deep breathing, and as I mentioned previously, a journalling practice can also be part of your self-care! All of these things can help. Prioritizing self-care helps you rebuild your physical and emotional strength.
Set Realistic Expectations:
Healing takes time! It's important to have realistic expectations about the healing process. There will be good days and bad days. Progress may be slow, but that's okay. Celebrate small victories, and don't be too hard on yourself during setbacks.
Focus on Personal Growth:
Learn the lessons! To truly heal, consider the toxic relationship as a learning experience. Reflect on the lessons you've gained and how they can contribute to your personal growth. This shift in perspective can help you move forward with newfound wisdom and strength. Gaining awareness of past patterns that could've contributed to the toxic dynamics in that relationship will help you to look out for the red flags in future too.
Trust, especially in yourself, can be severely damaged by a toxic relationship. It's essential to work on rebuilding trust over time. Start by connecting to and trusting your own judgment and intuition. As you regain trust in yourself, it becomes easier to trust others. And you will also be able to build some healthy boundaries when you truly listen to yourself and what you need.
Lastly, Just Know That You Can Heal!
Healing from a toxic relationship is a process that takes time and effort. It's important to remember that you are not defined by your past, and you have the strength to create a healthier and happier future. By embracing self-compassion, seeking support, and focusing on personal growth, you can fully put yourself on the journey towards emotional recovery and well-being as a single woman. Remember, you deserve love, respect, and happiness in your relationships, and the healing journey is a crucial step in achieving that.