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Is it Still Possible to Meet Your Soulmate IRL Without Dating Apps?

I say absolutely YES!! It happened for me and I've seen it happen for others too. I'm not totally against dating apps and some people will prefer them as a method for finding love. BUT if you want to try another way read on!!

Being Open to Finding Love, Whilst Getting on With Life!

Have you heard people say: "I found my partner when I wasn't really looking."? Often the most meaningful connections happen when you least expect them. The universe has a mysterious way of bringing two souls together, and sometimes, it's not about actively searching but just getting out there and living your best life and trusting that love will find you when you're enjoying what you're doing!

This is sometimes easier said than done and so I wanted to write this blog to instil optimism and confidence in you, if you're fed up of looking and waiting for your mate to come along. Or you're totally sick of dating apps and want to give real life opportunities to meet someone a chance.

In this blog, I want to talk about examples of places where you might meet your partner IRL and also discuss the mindset of not actively looking, because, as the saying goes, love has a way of finding you when you're busy living your life.

I will also tell you my story of how I met my partner IRL (and after years of internet dating, some successful but not lasting and some dismal experiences too.) I'll save these stories for another time!

Here Are Some Ideas Of Where & How You Might Meet Your Future Partner!

✅ Embrace Hobbies and Passions: One of the best ways to meet like-minded people is by engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy. Whether it's joining a pickle ball club, a new gym or drama club, attending a painting, writing or photography class or participating in a local hiking group, you increase your chances of meeting someone who shares your interests. By focusing on your passions, you naturally attract people who appreciate the same things and also meet people you probably wouldn't have come across in your every day life.

✅ Expand Your Social Circle: Attend social events, gatherings, networking events, meet-ups and parties even if they aren't directly related to finding a partner. Often, when you're surrounded by friends and acquaintances, you become more open to new connections. Your friends might introduce you to someone interesting, or you might strike up a conversation with a stranger who ends up becoming a significant part of your life. Remember that the events that you really don't feel like attending are often the ones that you're really glad you made the effort to go to!

✅ Volunteer and Give Back: Volunteering not only allows you to contribute to a cause you believe in, but it also puts you in contact with people who share your values and commitment to making a difference. The shared experience of giving back can create a strong bond, and you might find that special someone while working towards a common goal.

✅ Travel and Explore: Traveling opens up a world of possibilities, not just in terms of discovering new places but also meeting new people. Whether you're exploring a foreign city or hiking through the mountains, the unexpected connections you make during your travels can turn into lifelong relationships. You could go on your own or with a friend. If there's no one free to go with you and you don't want to go on your own, there are some great companies who take group tours. I did several amazing trips with Intrepid Travel when I was single, visiting India, South America and Vietnam. Don't let being single stop you from seeing the world, if you're passionate about travel, like I am!

✅ Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of actively searching for a partner, invest time in personal growth. Pursue your career goals, learn new skills, and become the best version of yourself. When you're focused on your own development, you radiate confidence and positivity, making you more attractive to potential partners who are drawn to your ambition and self-assuredness. You are also engaged in your own self-growth journey. And if you're a bit of a junkie in the self-development world (like me:)) you will be in a great energy to meet someone, because you'll be loving what you're doing and learning.

✅ Be Open to New Experiences: The key to meeting your soulmate unexpectedly is being open to new experiences. Attend events you wouldn't normally consider, say "yes" to invitations, and step outside your comfort zone. Love often finds us when we're least expecting it, in the most unlikely places.

Try Speed Dating Or Other Single's Events: Speed dating and other singles events are fun if you approach them with a view to meeting and chatting to new people that you wouldn't normally meet, having a laugh and increasing your chances of meeting someone you would like to get to now better. And the best thing is that all of the attendees are single and looking for the same thing that you are. If a speed dating event is well-attended many of the companies state that you'll get to meet and chat (albeit for 4-5 minutes) to 15-20 single people in that one evening. Where else are you able to meet so many people that could potentially be your future partner?

If you try this, don't just go to one event and give up if it's not successful. There are many events and each one will be different.

How I Met My Soulmate IRL

After years of dating and searching for the ‘one’, I met my partner at a seminar about writing and publishing a book (which was something that we were both wanting to do). I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone in the romantic sense at this event and I definitely wasn’t looking at that time!

We stayed in touch as friends and a couple of months later went on our first date. Fast forward nine years and we're still together and very happy. I don't think I would've met him if I hadn't attended the seminar. For me there wasn't an initial 'physical spark', I treated him as a friend and the attraction grew as we got to know each other more. It can happen for you too! By trying some of the ideas above; embracing your passions, expanding your social circle, volunteering, traveling, focusing on personal growth, and being open to new experiences, you will be creating the perfect conditions for you to meet more people (whilst not even touching a dating app) and for serendipity to work its magic!

Remember, love has a way of finding you when you're busy living a life filled with purpose and spending time doing the things you love to do. So, let go of the search, enjoy the journey, and trust that your soulmate will come into your life when the time is right.

P.S. If you are single and would like to meet someone, you may really like my NEW program: 💕Solo to Soulmate: Finding Love Offline: A fun & empowering path to organically attract your partner without dating apps.💕

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