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What is jealousy?

You may have had these feelings yourself or been at the other end of a partner’s jealous reactions in the past. I like this quote by Maya Angelou, as it’s true that some level of jealousy is normal in relationships but excessive jealousy can be really detrimental:

"Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening."

If you’ve experienced excessive jealousy, you will know how destructive this emotion can be. This is why it is described in the play of Othello as the ‘green-eyed monster’ that threatens to drive him mad!

Jealousy is a complex and often challenging emotion that can strain even the strongest of relationships. It can arise from insecurities, past experiences, or feelings of inadequacy. Left unchecked, jealousy can lead to mistrust, arguments, and ultimately, the deterioration of a loving partnership.

Because I have a passion for helping my clients with their relationships, jealousy and being negatively triggered with a partner often comes up. People seek my help with this because they are often unable to tackle it themselves and they can feel it’s damaging effects. I love to help individuals and couples manage and overcome jealousy, because this can save many otherwise loving relationships.

The main technique I use is the powerful Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT). This is a therapeutic technique that delves deep into the root causes of jealousy to promote healing and growth. RTT can be a really valuable tool in addressing jealousy within relationships.

Understanding Jealousy

Before I explain how RTT can help with overcoming jealousy, it's essential to understand what causes it. This emotion and reaction often emerges from a fear of losing something precious – be it a partner's love, trust, or attention. It can manifest as suspicion, insecurity, or possessiveness and may be triggered by real or perceived threats.

Perhaps a previous partner cheated and you are afraid that this will happen again with a current partner. Or maybe your other-half does flirt with others or has actually been unfaithful before and you’re trying to forgive and forget but it’s so hard. Maybe you have witnessed infidelity in your parent’s relationship and you are projecting this fear, mistrust and jealousy onto others in your adult life.

How does RTT help?

RTT, developed by renowned therapist Marisa Peer, is a groundbreaking approach that combines elements of hypnotherapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and psychotherapy. RTT aims to identify and address the deep-seated beliefs and emotions that drive behaviors, including jealousy. Here's how RTT can help with jealousy in relationships:

1. Identifying the Root Causes: RTT helps people explore their subconscious mind to uncover the root causes of jealousy. These may be linked to past experiences, childhood trauma, or negative beliefs about self-worth or relationships. By identifying these origins, we gain insight into why we feel jealous and begin the process of healing.

2. Reframing Negative Beliefs: One of the core principles of RTT is reframing negative beliefs. I use hypnotherapy and guided visualization to replace destructive thought patterns with positive and empowering ones. For example, clients who are struggling with feelings of inadequacy can learn to see themselves as worthy and lovable.

3. Boosting Self-Esteem: Low self-esteem is often a driving force behind jealousy. RTT helps build self-confidence and self-assurance. As we begin to value ourselves more, we become less dependent on external validation, reducing the need for jealousy.

4. Enhancing Communication Skills: Jealousy often arises from miscommunication or misunderstandings between partners. RTT can improve communication skills, allowing us to express our feelings and concerns more effectively. This fosters trust and understanding within the relationship.

5. Emotional Regulation: RTT equips people with tools to manage their emotions better. This helps prevent jealousy from escalating into destructive behaviors and allows for more rational and constructive responses to triggers.

6. Creating Healthy Boundaries: RTT can also help clients with establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries within the relationship. This ensures that both partners feel respected and secure.

Change is possible!

Jealousy can be a destructive force in relationships, but it doesn't have to be insurmountable. Rapid Transformational Therapy offers a holistic approach to addressing jealousy by delving deep into its root causes and promoting healing and personal growth. Through RTT, we can gain a better understanding of ourselves, improve self-esteem, and develop healthier communication and coping mechanisms. With the right support and therapeutic techniques like RTT, we can learn to manage and ultimately overcome jealousy, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships.

RTT can be effective on its own and is also one of the foundations of my Healthy Relationship Formula Program, helping women to move far away from toxic relationships attract and thrive in a healthy and loving relationship.

For more information about this powerful program click here!

And read more about RTT here!


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