Recognizing Green Flags: Positive Signs When Meeting a Potential Partner
When it comes to dating, so much attention is given to red flags — warning signs that tell us that we may have met someone NOT good for us or that there may be potential issues in a relationship.
However, it's equally important to recognize the positive signals that suggest you've found someone that could be a really good and healthy match for you.
In this blog, I wanted to explore the concept of "green flags" — those encouraging signs that can help you identify a promising connection from the very beginning of meeting someone new.
10 Signs That You May Have Met a ‘Keeper’
1. Open Communication: One of the first green flags is an ability to communicate openly and honestly. A potential partner who is willing to share their thoughts, feelings, and aspirations is a true sign of an ability to trust and be transparent. Someone who is able to listen and is interested in what you have to say, your thoughts, dreams and goals, is another great quality to notice.
2. Respect for Boundaries: Healthy boundaries are a set of standards by which you treat yourself and others and you require the same treatment back from others in your life. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect for each other's boundaries. If a date or potential partner demonstrates an understanding of personal space and consent, it's a strong indicator of a considerate and mindful person. If they have good boundaries and respect for themselves, this is also a sign that they will treat you with the same standards.
“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, or your dignity”. Dinkar Kalotra
3. Supportive Nature: A person who genuinely supports your goals, dreams, and personal growth is a valuable find. Look for someone who encourages you to pursue your passions and celebrates your achievements. A relationship should always build you up rather than knock you down!
4. Shared Values: Common values and beliefs form a solid foundation for a lasting relationship. Signs that you’re on the same wavelength in this area include being in alignment on important aspects such as family, lifestyle, and core values. This is an indicator of compatibility because the things that are important to you are also important to your potential partner.
5. Emotional Intelligence: An emotionally intelligent partner is adept at recognizing and managing their own emotions while empathizing with yours. Someone who communicates effectively during both highs and lows is likely to navigate relationship challenges with maturity and deal with any conflict in a way that makes both partners feel safe.
“We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics.” –Joyce Meyer
6. Kindness and Empathy: Acts of kindness and genuine empathy are crucial green flags. A partner who shows compassion toward others, whether it's strangers, friends, or family, is likely to bring warmth and understanding to the relationship. If you’re dating someone watch out for how they treat people (waiters, bar staff, strangers, taxi drivers etc) and how they talk about others too!
7. Positive Conflict Resolution: Disagreements are inevitable, but how they're handled is key. A potential partner who approaches conflicts with a desire for resolution, compromise, and understanding demonstrates a commitment to the health of the relationship.
“Let’s not forget it’s you and me vs. the problem. Not you vs. me.” - Steve Maraboli
8. Shared Interests and Hobbies: Whilst opposites can often attract as they say and if a potential partner has different interests and hobbies to you this can also be an enriching experience. But some shared interests and hobbies can strengthen the bond between you both too. Look for someone with whom you can enjoy common activities which allows for a deeper connection and shared experiences too.
9. Reliability and Consistency: Reliability is a green flag that speaks volumes. Look for a partner who follows through on commitments, keeps promises, and demonstrates consistency in their actions. Someone who is true to their word and does what they say they are going to do will give you the confidence that you can trust and depend on them, on the daily but also when inevitable life challenges happen.
“A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air is circulating and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this environment. Keep your doors and windows open. If the person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world, will not make them leave. Trust the truth. “ - Unknown
10. Mutual Growth and Independence: A healthy relationship allows for both individual growth and shared experiences. Someone who encourages your personal development while expressing a desire for mutual growth is likely to help you both to grow and nurture the relationship at the same time! Each partner should feel free to be themselves and to spend time with and without their partner, without any pressure to be together all the time!
Awareness Leads to Better Choices
When meeting new people &/or when dating, keep your eyes peeled for these positive qualities. While red flags can show us what we really DON”T want, green flags are great signals that someone could be your ‘person’. By looking out for and noticing these attributes, you can approach dating with a clearer understanding of what you require and expect from a partner, in order to assess if they’re right for you and your ideal loving future relationship!
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Firstly: What is the Law of Attraction and What Does it Mean to Manifest?
The Law of Attraction and manifestation are concepts that revolve around the idea that our thoughts and intentions have the power to shape our reality. The theory of the LOA is that like attracts like, which means that positive thoughts and energy attract similar energy and positive outcomes. On the other hand, if you’re focusing on the negative you may notice more of that sort of energy and matching situations coming into your life.
In essence, what you focus on and believe in, will manifest in your life.
Manifestation utilizes the LOA on purpose to bring specific desires and goals into reality through focused thoughts, visualizations, and intentions. It involves aligning your thoughts, feelings, and actions with your desired outcomes to create a harmonious flow of energy, that can lead to the realization of your goals.
When you’re trying to harness the Law of Attraction and manifest what you want it’s essential to incorporate positivity, clarity, and a belief in the power of your thoughts. These aspects need to be aligned to bring about the changes and things you want.
When the LOA Doesn’t Work
The Law of Attraction has gained a lot of attention, especially due to well-known books like "The Secret." It's a powerful tool, but it needs to be used in the correct way! People sometimes complain that it doesn't work as easily as they expected. In this blog, I'll discuss five reasons why the LOA might not give you the results you want, and share some advice on how to overcome each one.
Five Ways You May Not Be Doing it Right & What To Do Instead
Unrealistic Expectations
One of the biggest reasons why the Law of Attraction often falls short is unrealistic expectations. The notion that you can merely visualize your dreams and they will effortlessly fall into your lap is, of course going to end in disappointment!
While positive thinking is the essential first step, it's equally crucial to set realistic goals and take concrete steps towards achieving them. The LOA can enhance your journey, but it's not a magic wand that will instantly grant your wishes.
What to do: Balance your optimism with practical action. Use positive thinking as a tool to stay motivated and focused and keep your eye on the end result, but remember that success often requires persistent effort too!
Lack of Clarity
Another stumbling block is a lack of clarity in your goals. If you're vague about what you want, it's challenging for you to stay focused on your goals and for you to act in ways that assist the universe to bring it into your life. To manifest your goals effectively, you need to be specific and precise about your intentions. This helps you and your energy, align more effectively.
What to do: Spend time defining your goals and visualizing them with as much detail as possible. Write them down, create vision boards, and regularly revisit your intentions to keep them fresh in your mind.
Negativity and Doubt
The Law of Attraction is all about harnessing the power of positivity but it's natural to experience negativity and doubt at times. However if this goes un-checked, these negative emotions can act as barriers to you attracting what you want. If you constantly dwell on what's not working or doubt your ability to achieve your goals, it can hinder your progress. This is because you’re then focusing on the lack of what you want and this will often keep you in that lack!
What to do: Embrace the power of gratitude, affirmations, and meditation to combat negativity and doubt. Surround yourself with as much positivity as you can, and remember that setbacks are just stepping stones to your success. Reframe failure; there’s no failing, just winning, or learning and growing!
Impatience
Patience is key when working with the Law of Attraction. Instant results are not always realistic, and it's essential to understand that the universe operates on its own timeline and not yours! If you become impatient and frustrated, it can disrupt the flow of positive energy.
What to do: Cultivate patience and trust in the process. Focus on each step you’re taking and the lessons you're learning along the way. Manifestation may take time, but if you enjoy the journey, that’s ok!
Resistance to Change
Sometimes, the LOA doesn't work because people are resistant to change. We may be attached to our current and familiar circumstances, even if they're not ideal, and we often fear the unknown. This resistance can create a mental block (often that we’re not fully aware of) that interferes with the manifestation process. This is when limiting beliefs get in the way!
What to do: Embrace change and open yourself up to new possibilities. It’s important to learn how to let go of limiting beliefs and fears, and be willing to adapt to the opportunities that come your way. Remember that nothing great comes from being in your ‘comfort zone’!
You Can’t Just Sit on your Sofa & Expect your Soulmate to Appear!
While the Law of Attraction can be a powerful tool for achieving your dreams and goals, it's not a guaranteed ticket to success. Realizing your desires through the LOA requires a combination of positive thinking, realistic goal-setting, and consistent effort. That means that you can think and feel all you want, but you also have to act!
Overcoming the challenges that we’ve mentioned above, can make the law of attraction work better for you and get you closer to what you really want.
Remember that the universe works in mysterious ways, and sometimes, the things you need most are not what you initially envisioned. Stay open, stay positive, and trust and enjoy the process of manifestation!
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I Learnt to Love Being Single, But it Wasn't Always Easy!
When I think back to being single I remember fully enjoying my life. I was happy and busy with all sorts of stuff. But I did have to learn how to enjoy that phase of my life.
In my 20’s I went from one relationship to another with hardly a moment to breathe and learn from anything! Then when I was 32 my long-term relationship broke up. It was an incredibly difficult time for me and I was truly and devastatingly heartbroken!
But after some time and moving through the grief of a really difficult break-up and subsequent divorce, I did learn to be happy as a single person.
It’s interesting that after a long period of emotional grief and healing and also of really feeling the lack of a relationship, I learnt to accept and appreciate my single life. And when I was loving life that’s when a wonderful relationship came in.
A Single Person Loving Life is Very Attractive!
When you’re happy being single and you know that you are enough and whole as you are, that’s when you tend to attract a healthy, happy partner to you. It seems counterproductive but when you’re really thriving and you’re living your life to the full as a single person, that’s when you attract the good things to you and this includes potential and compatible partners!
Whilst I love my partner and cherish our relationship now, I look back on my single life with a real fondness! I truly believe that we should re-frame being single as an amazing opportunity for self-discovery, personal growth, and learning to be truly happy inside!
However, it's not always easy to feel content when you're solo in a world that often glorifies romantic relationships.
In this blog, I wanted to tackle why it may not always be easy to feel happy as a single person and also the importance of embracing and enjoying your single life, along with ten practical tips to help you find true joy and fulfilment on your journey to love.
Why It Can Be Difficult to Be Happy Single:
Being single can be tough because of societal expectations that make people feel like they should be in romantic relationships. When you're not in one, you might feel inadequate or like something is wrong, because of this social pressure. Loneliness is also a challenge, especially if you don't have many friends or family for support. When you see happy couples on social media or in your social circle, it can make you feel like you’re missing out because you're comparing your life to theirs. Additionally, your own or your family's expectations can push you into a relationship, even if it's not the right time or the right person. These difficulties show that being single in a world that values romantic relationships can be complicated.
Why Embracing Your Single Life Is Important: Some great aspects about single life:
Being single is a great time to learn more about yourself. You can explore what you like and what's important to you without having to compromise with someone else. You have the freedom to make choices that make you happy and be in charge of your own life. It's also a chance for personal growth, where you can work on improving yourself and healing from past experiences. This can help you have better and happier relationships in the future because you'll be comfortable on your own and won't feel like you need someone to complete you. It's about wanting a relationship, not feeling like you have to be in one to be whole.
10 Tips to Embrace and Enjoy Your Single Life:
1. Cultivate Self-Love: Practice self-compassion and self-acceptance. Treat yourself with kindness and respect.
2. Set Goals: This is a great time to create personal and professional goals to give your life real purpose and direction.
3. Strengthen Friendships: Invest time in nurturing your friendships and building a strong support network.
4. Pursue Passions: Explore your interests and hobbies. Pursuing your passions and what lights you up, can be incredibly fulfilling.
5. Travel and Explore: Take advantage of your freedom to explore new places, cultures and experiences.
6. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practice mindfulness to stay present and focused on your own journey.
7. Learn from Past Relationships: Reflect on past relationships to gain insight into what you truly want in a partner. Look at past patterns and get really clear on what you don’t want this can lead you towards what you do want.
8. Socialize and Meet New People: Join clubs, take classes, and attend events to meet like-minded people OR people who are different to you, which allows you to learn and broadens your horizons.
9. Help Others: Volunteering and helping others can be a fulfilling way to find purpose and joy.
10. Stay Open to Love: While enjoying single life is important, stay open to the idea of love. Embrace the now with an anticipation about the exciting future that is coming your way!.
I hope that this blog has inspired you to know that being single doesn't mean you have to put your happiness on hold. It's a unique phase of your life where you have the freedom and opportunity to grow, learn, and discover what makes you truly happy.
When you embrace this time with an open heart, and you'll be better equipped to welcome love when it comes your way. And you’ll enjoy your life NOW (which is what it’s all about!)
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